If you care about someone with ADD or ADHD, educate yourself. It will help you to understand why they act in certain ways. You may also learn a few approaches that will make interactions easier for both of you. Once you understand how difficult it can be for them, you’ll be more willing to give them a break once in awhile if things become too hard and they backslide.
Many therapists are willing to meet with the family as well as the ADD or ADHD patient. They may suggest a group meeting or meet with you individually. Once they get to know their patient, they’ll have some good ideas about how the home environment can be changed to reduce stress and provide a more structured environment.
Don’t be overly critical of your loved one with ADD or ADHD. Be gently supportive and allow them to keep trying until they succeed. If you need them to do something for you, make sure that you give them clear directions and break it down into smaller tasks that can be accomplished in a relatively short time. Try not to appear frustrated when they come back and ask the same question a few times. Keep in mind that something that is simple for you, can be extremely complicated for them.